I still haven't gotten the hang of this "standing on your own work." (Thank my mother for that quote.) A quick glance at a list of fantasy cliches sent my recently recovered self-esteem down the drain. Oops. But something I'm wondering - Does any author ever learn how to "stand on their own work" and stop caring if it's "officially" cliched, or if they get a bad review? Even the New York Times bestsellers.
Writers are perfectionist--people-pleasers.